Achieving your goals is a lot like being married. When my wife and I were first married, we made certain promises to each other, in a spiritual sense we call them covenants. We didn’t take those lightly. Even though we fell in some hard times a number of years ago, we kinda hit rock bottom, even though we actually contemplated not being married anymore, we remembered those commitments that we had made to each other.
It’s fascinating because there’s this really interesting trend going on where people can actually get married for a month with the agreement that if things aren’t everything that they thought they were going to be, if things aren’t all sunshine and rainbows, then they mutually agree to get divorced. So are these people committed? No, they are not.
According to statistics, warning this statistic is probably going to be triggering for some of you, but according to statistics couples that live together before they get married are actually 2x as likely to get divorced once they do get married. The reason why is a lot of times, not everyone, but a lot of times people that live together without getting married are less committed to each other. So, at the first sign of difficulties, they flee, they end that commitment because they never were 100% committed in the first place.
It’s the same principle when it comes to weight reduction, building a business, or when it comes to fulfilling a commitment to posting a video every single day, even if it’s super crazy early in the morning, and you’re still in bed. It’s the same type of thing. If some little thing is enough to cause a person to weed themselves out, meaning if the tiniest sign of difficulty and challenge of getting outside their comfort zone is enough to stop them in their tracks, then of course just about anything else will stop them as well. A lot of people are looking for the “magic solution” that will cause the thing to be super easy.
Now, with our Enjoy Yourself Thin Facebook group, we try to make it as easy and enjoyable as possible, but that doesn’t mean that it’s all gonna be sunshine and rainbows. You are still going to need to put in the work. You are still going to need to overcome your own challenges. You are still going to need to “do what you gotta do” in order to get rid of that extra weight.
Yes, sometimes, even as enjoyable as it’s going to be as we help people to make it, it’s not always going to be easy. There’s going to be some challenges and difficulties. If you aren’t 100% “married” to the achievement of what it is that you desire to achieve, you are not likely going to achieve it.
(Even though it’s crazy early in the morning, I committed to creating this for you, so here I am.)
Again, if you aren’t 100% “married” to reaching your ideal body weight, then is it going to happen? No.
Even people that come to me for a Metabolism and Weight-reduction Assessment have to be 100% committed to achieving their desired results.
One of the reasons why a lot of people don’t reach their ideal weight is because they spend sometimes years trying to do guesswork, trying to figure out which diet is going to work for them.
People ask, “what diets work?” My answer, “Well they all work, they just don’t all work for everyone.” A lot of people spend years and years searching, myself included. I spent years trying to figure out which diet and exercise plan would work for me. I wish that I’d had the Assessments as a resource as I first got started because it would have saved me a lot of time, a lot of years.
But even so, when people reach out to me, our Assessments are $499, but they are actually free to members of our Enjoy Yourself Thin Facebook group. Even though we offer it at no charge to members, every so often when people reach out to me and say, “I really want to schedule this assessment,” I respond, “Fantastic!” and I send them over an application.
The application has 9 questions on it, and there are some personal questions on there including, “What are you hoping to achieve?” “Why do you want to achieve it?” “On a scale of 1-10, How committed are you?” Then, based on what we find, everyone’s different, for some people we might uncover that they need to do a liver cleanse in order to start metabolizing fat a lot better. Sometimes for that we’ll say, “use celery juice” which is fantastic for liver cleanses. And they’re like, “Wait a second, I have to go buy celery? That costs money!” We respond, “Yeah, it’s a couple bucks.” They sometimes get flustered and say, “Hold on Eric, this has to do with money?” My response, “Well yeah, of course it is.” You’re going to have to put something in to get the results you desire, whether that’s money, time, and/or energy.
For some people, we find that they have some unresolved trauma from sometimes years and years ago and that’s what’s actually keeping the weight on. Sometimes we’ll recommend they go get some type of therapy or counseling appropriate for them to overcome that. “Wait a second Eric, that’s gonna cost money!” Me: “Duh, of course it is.” If a little bit of money is enough to weed you out, then are you going to reach that goal, are you going to reach your ideal weight? Of course not because you aren’t 100% committed to doing it.
Sometimes, yeah, things require an investment: an investment in time, money, and energy.
I actually just spoke to someone last night because one of the questions on the application is, “What are you hoping for?” I ask people, “Are you wanting me to tell just tell you the problem, but not the solution? Are you wanting me to give you specific solutions? If so, do you want me to stay within a certain dollar amount within those recommendations?” and some people say, “Yes, don’t tell me anything that would cost more than $50.” I say, “OK, well hopefully you don’t need anything that costs more than $50.”
Some people don’t. Some people just need to tweak their diet and that’s it. Other people need several more things. If they have deeply rooted traumas, sometimes we’ll recommend they seek out an NLP practitioner, a hypnotherapist, a B.E.S.T. practitioner, or a physcotherapist, or another appropriate professional. People say, “Well that costs money!” Of course it does, but it won’t cost nearly as much as all the current and future health challenges by not doing so. Does that make sense?
I recently wrote an article on Addiction Recovery. My company actually offers a phenomenal addiction recovery program. In my opinion, it’s one of, if not the best addiction recovery program in the world because of how deep it goes and how thorough it is. It is not inexpensive.
Every so often someone will reach out and apply for the program, and they get super-triggered when they find out it’s not inexpensive. They say, “Wait a second, why would you charge people for that?” Well, it’s because we understand the concept of investing in oneself, and that’s if a person isn’t willing to invest in themselves, if they would prefer to stay where they are, then of course they are not going to invest in themselves and do all that is necessary to change. Does that make sense? Because deep down, they don’t feel like they are worth it.
That is one of the ways we filter out those people that aren’t 100% serious about reaching their ideal weight, or overcoming their addiction, or whatever it is. We simply ask them, “Are you willing to invest into yourself?”
Now, with those Metabolism Assessments, does that mean that they are 2-hour sales pitches? No, of course not, very far from it. But as I mentioned, every so often, based on what we find, we might find the person needs to do a liver cleanse, then yeah, we’ll probably recommend that they go get lots of celery, juice it, and drink it. Or whatever they need.
My biggest point with all of this is, find that commitment within yourself. Allow yourself to be absolutely “married” to your goals because you’ve got to have that level of commitment if you’re going to reach them. Again, whether that’s your weight, addiction recovery, building your business, or whatever it is.
When a person is 100% married to their goals, barring anything that isn’t legal, moral, or ethical, they will do whatever it takes. Because that’s what being “married” to your goal is.
Find that commitment within yourself. Allow yourself to realize that you are worth making commitments to, and find a way to do it. Just get it done.
This is kind of a morbid example, but it works: Every so often people are like, “Wait a second, I can’t do such-and-such. That costs money.” Of course it does, but let’s say something crazy happened, you’re free of this, this is just an example, and let’s say a loved one whom you’re responsible for had some crazy accident and they had to be rushed to the hospital. The doctor said, “we have to perform this life-saving surgery. It’s gonna cost a lot of money though. It’s gonna cost $20,000 dollars.” What would you say? Would you say, “You know, now’s not really a good time, I can’t afford that.” No!! Of course not! This is a loved one. You would say, “OK, we’ll do whatever it takes. We will find the money to save that person’s life!”
You’ve got to view yourself in the same regards. When you love yourself enough, you do whatever it takes to come up with whatever it takes in order to reach that goal. Again for some people that’s a time investment. For others, it’s realizing the kind of changes they need to make. Stop weeding yourself out. Allow yourself to be married to your goals and watch yourself reach them. Love you!
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